I’ll admit, I’m finding it hard to motivate myself to blog at the moment. I’m still taking pills and trying to be positive about things but it’s hard work not slipping into a stupid self pitying slumber.
But less about that for now. At the weekend we had some friends come to stay with their two children – one starting nursery and one about to start primary school. The house was full of family noise and chaos – children running about screaming in excitement which soon turned to tears as inevitable accidents occurred. Me and wifey were a little apprehensive about having friends to stay, even though they were people we knew very well and hadn’t seen them for too long. After the drama of the week a quiet weekend would have been the easy option, but looking back it was a good thing over all – I could have spent the weekend wallowing on my own but instead had some good chats with my friends and enjoyed their company.
The house did feel pleasantly calm on their departure though, and after a house full of 4 adults and 3 little ones our little family of three seemed a lot more manageable.
Today is Monday, the start of a new week. Tomorrow is May, and I know I won’t see the end of May without seeing my new baby. That thought is quite daunting.
Today I’ve been catching up with a colleague at work who’d just had a daughter and has been sharing their thoughts from the first two weeks.
Things I’ve learnt:
- Birth plans really should be birth daydreams. You really don’t know / can’t prepare for what’s going to happen on the day.
- Getting visitors after the birth is great, but can be overwhelming when you’re knackered and coming to terms with the massive shift in your world.
- But mostly, nothing prepares you for how awesome being a Dad is. This part I’m really looking forward to.
- Following closely though, the euphoria doesn’t last forever. Give it 4-6 weeks and the sleep deprivation and relentless demands wear down the best of men.
- Lastly, be careful what pictures you post online. I have now seen far more of the new mum than I’d usually be comfortable. But it appears as new parents new nudity rules apply.